“He says he loves me.” Bobbie sniffled. “How can I call the police when he says he loves me?” Bobbie’s mother said, “Call the police anyway,” Bobbie had experienced another one of her husband’s emotional and physical beatings.
“If you don’t want to call the police, call the National Domestic Violence hotline right now at 1-800-799-7233 on my cell phone. Ask whoever answers if emotional and physical abuse is a sign that he loves you.”
Bobbie hung her head in shame. “And don’t let him blame you for his abuse. It isn’t your fault.”
As Bobbie dabbed at her tears, she said, “Mama, I love him, and he says he loves me. We can work it out.”
“Yes, you love him.” Mama paused for a few seconds. “He says he loves you, but ‘Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth’ (1 Corinthians 13:6).”
He says he loves you, but he delights in the evil of slapping, punching, and kicking you. He says he loves you, but he delights in the evil of beating you up not only with his fist but also with his mouth.”
Mama stared into her daughter’s eyes and said, “He says he loves you, but he lies to you when he blames you for his abuse. He expects you to lie and cover up for him when anyone questions your bruises. He doesn’t rejoice with the truth.”
Bobbie wrung her hands and sighed. “Where will I go? How will I survive financially?”
“You can stay with us. Your father and I will help you.”
“I’m scared to leave him. He says I won’t make it on my own, and no one will want me.”
At this point, Mama was worn out. She had heard at least a dozen versions of this same conversation. “Your husband says he loves you, but he doesn’t show it.”
Mama handed Bobbie her Bible and said, “Read 1 Corinthians 13:6.”
1 Corinthians 13:6: “Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.”
Will you call the police or the National Domestic Violence Hotline (http://www.thehotline.org) when a loved one abuses you?
Prayer: O God, help me not to call evil love but instead to rejoice with the truth. Amen.
Copyright © by Yvonne Ortega October 24, 2016
October, National Domestic Violence Awareness Month