“How could I have believed all of Pete’s lies? Janie said through tears. She sat across from me in my office and twisted the shoulder straps on her purse.
“He said he loved me and wanted to marry me.” Janie looked at the floor and shook her head. “He told me he lost his job because he defended mistreated employees.”
“I sense your shame and guilt for believing Pete. He must have sounded convincing.”
Between sobs, she said, “He sure did. He said he would have more money but he had house payments and utilities in his home state and the apartment rent here. All the time we dated, he had a girlfriend in his home caring for his children. She paid his utility bills and enough to cover the apartment rental.”
“You didn’t completely believe him, Janie. I want to congratulate you for taking your time in the relationship and not marrying him.”
With a smile, she said, “At least I did that much right.”
How about you? With online dating services, social media, singles events, etc. you could meet someone like Pete too. How can you avoid it?
The Test of Time
First, take your time. Don’t rush into a serious relationship or marry on impulse. If someone tries to rush you, take it as a danger signal.
His Family, Friends, and Coworkers
Secondly, get to know the person’s family, friends, and coworkers. See how he treats them. Observe their conversations and behavior. If he makes excuses to keep you from them, consider that trouble.
Your Family, Friends, and Coworkers
Third, let him meet your family, friends, and coworkers. Ask them later for an honest opinion and listen. They care about you.
Fourth, if he is on social media, compare what he tells you against the social media profiles and posts. Check his friends or connections.
Criminal Background Check
Fifth, do an online free criminal background check.
Last but not least, pray daily. Ask God for wisdom and discernment.
2 Thessalonians 2:3: “Don’t let anyone deceive you in any way.”
Dear God, keep me from deceitful personal and business relationships. Amen.
Application: What will you do this week to avoid deception?
Copyright © by Yvonne Ortega June 29, 2015