“He told me he’s sorry and will never look at another woman again,” Betsy said. She reached for the tissue box on my desk. “He said he loves me. I don’t believe him anymore, Ms. Yvonne.”
“His infidelity has shattered your trust. Right now, you can’t trust him.”
With a nod, Betsy said, “I don’t. If he says he has to go to work early or stay late, I think he’s lying.” She unbuttoned her purple jacket and removed it. “If the phone rings, and he races to answer it, I wonder if it’s the other woman.”
“That’s a natural reaction. If the situation were reversed, he wouldn’t trust you right away either. Trust is earned over time.
I explained that in Vine’s Complete Expository Dictionary of Old and New Testament Words, to repent means “to change one’s mind or purpose always . . . for the better.” Vine’s also says that in the New Testament, repentance refers to sin, and “this change of mind involves both a turning from sin and a turning to God.”
She sat in silence for a few moments and stared out my office window. Then she whispered, “How will I know if he’s really repented and has turned from infidelity?”
“You may not for a while. Time will tell. It will require patience on your part and his.
Can you identify with Betsy? Because of your husband’s infidelity, do you wonder whether you can believe a word he says? Does he try to make you feel guilty for not trusting him immediately?
2 Corinthians 7:10: “Godly sorrow brings repentance.”
Dear God, my husband’s infidelity left me devastated. Show me what to do. Amen.
Application: What will you do this week to help you understand the process of rebuilding trust?
Copyright © by Yvonne Ortega June 1, 2015