Do you feel discouraged, deceived, or depressed?

Do you worry that you’ll never overcome the challenges and heartaches in your life?

Do you struggle to forgive yourself and those who hurt you?

I understand. I experienced those same feelings and struggles. However, I moved from broken to beautiful, and you can too. Through my blog, the free resources, and my future podcast, my goal is to help you move from broken to beautiful.


Practical examples and suggestions to help you move from the heartache of grief to the beauty of comfort, peace, and purpose in your new normal.

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Practical steps and encouragement to help you move from pain, brokenness and defeat to peace, joy, and freedom.



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 Practical lessons to help you leave destructive patterns of thought and behavior to move forward in your life.



Category Archives: Shame and guilt

How to Move Out of the Land of “If Only I Had . . .”

Regretful womanDo you live in the land of “if only I had . . .”? If you live in that land, you are not alone, but you don’t have to stay there.  How can you move out of the land of if only I had . . .?

Yesterday, a news reporter talked about people who chose to stay in Florida during Hurricane Irma.

A government official said that those who changed their mind had to stay now. It was too late to leave. All services had been suspended. If only . . .

In my latest book, Moving from Broken to Beautiful® through Grief, I told the story of a teenage girl, Jeanette, who argued with her mother over use of the car that evening.

As her mother turned to leave, the daughter screamed, “I hate you, Mom.”

Her mother said, “We’ll settle this when I return,” and left.

Afterward, Jeanette realized she had been disrespectful. She decided to stay up until her mother came home and apologize.

Her mother had a car accident on the way home and died at the scene. Jeanette sobbed and said, “If only I hadn’t lost my temper. If only I hadn’t screamed at my mother.”

Your circumstances may be different than Jeanette’s, but perhaps you also live in the land of “If only I had . . .”

Your First Step to Move Out of the Land of If Only I Had . . .

Make confession your first step. Tell God you’re sorry for what you did or didn’t do. Confess without excuses or blame of someone else.

Your Second Step

Your second step is to repent. To repent is to turn from your wrongdoing and turn to God. Repentance involves a change of attitude and behavior. You will change your ways. You’re sorry not because you got caught, but because you did wrong.

You do not have to stay stuck in the past. Once you follow those two steps, you can move out of the land of if only I had . . . and into the land of moving from broken to beautiful.

Romans 8:1: “Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.”

Prayer: God, I’m sorry for _______. I have no excuse and no one to blame. I repent of that wrongdoing. Amen.

When will you take your first step to move out of the land of if only I had . . .?

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Would You Like to Be Free from Condemnation?

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Psalm 34:22: “The LORD redeems his servants; no one will be condemned who takes refuge in him.” “I can’t believe I was unfaithful to my wonderful wife,” Jim told me. He stared at the floor and said, “You probably don’t believe me, but I love her.” I assured Jim that more than one man had… Continue Reading