A glazed look in his eyes? “On a recent visit to see our dad,” my brother told me on the phone, “we went out for lunch. Afterward, we returned to the nursing home, and Dad plopped into his chair. He got a glazed look in his eyes.”
When my brother and I hung up, I searched online for the meaning of a glazed look in elderly people. Two possibilities came up. First, people with dementia can get a glazed look in their eyes. Dad does have dementia. Exhaustion, medications, or low blood sugar in those with dementia can cause that glazed look. A stroke or a bad day can also manifest with that look.
A second possibility for a glazed look is imminent death. However, in addition, people would also refuse to eat or drink anything because their body is shutting down. Eight years ago, Dad told me, “Mom wouldn’t eat or drink anything the last two weeks before she passed away.” He also said the nurse tried to get her to eat, and so did he.
One day in hopes that Mom would eat, Dad told her, “This soup is delicious. You should try it.”
She looked at him and said, “If it’s so good, why don’t you eat it?” Dad shrugged. He didn’t know what else to do. The nurse assured him that he couldn’t do anything to change the situation. “She is dying,” the nurse told Dad.
Once you know the possible causes of a glazed look, you may experience sadness, fear, or anger. Perhaps you will suffer from regret, loneliness, or worry.
You might not know a family member, friend, or coworker with dementia or facing death, but another challenge or life crisis could have you experiencing those same emotions mentioned above.
Proverbs 15:22: “Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisors they succeed.”
Prayer: Dear God, show me where to turn for help. Lead me to the right people for counsel. Amen.
What one thing can you do this week to find a solution or answers for the glazed look in a loved one or the challenge you face?
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