How can you handle fear when your dream shatters? Your dream may shatter because of death, divorce, illness, or some other loss. Here are three steps you can take to handle fear.
First, to handle the fear, admit you feel fearful.
Maybe you’re afraid to admit the fear. You think others will look down on you as a weakling. We all have strengths and weaknesses. A real friend won’t look down on you because of a temporary time of fear.
On the other hand, perhaps denial hinders you. Your mind tells you that you can handle it on your own and you’re not afraid of anything. Whether you and I admit it, we’re all afraid of something.
I understand how difficult the first step is. When I lost my mother and my only child, I went back and forth between admission of fear and denial. I did the same thing in the death of my marriage through divorce. You’re not alone.
When a loved one dies, you may go back and forth between admission of fear and denial of it. #grief, #fear Share on XSecond, to handle the fear, list the reasons for it.
Schedule time on your calendar to sit with a pen and paper or a journal. List the reasons for your fear. Afterward, analyze the reasons on your list. If one of them is lack of a job, tell everyone you know you need a job. Search online and go to an employment office.
Perhaps you fear the mound of paperwork that comes with death of a loved one or divorce. Tackle one matter at a time. Start with the most important one and work your way through the stack.
As your mound of paperwork dwindles, so will your fear.
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Third, to handle the fear, look in faith to God.
God loves you with an everlasting, unconditional love. You may think God doesn’t love you. Perhaps you believe that God will turn away from you if your change in marital status scares you. The Bible tells us in Romans 8:38–39, “Neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.”
Second Corinthians 1:3 refers to God as “the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort.” Go to him for the compassion and comfort you need. He is waiting for you.
In all my losses, God has loved me, shown compassion, and comforted me. He will do the same for you.
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Conclusion and Next Step
In conclusion, to handle the fear when your dream shatters:
- Admit you feel fearful.
- List the reasons for it.
- Look in faith to God.
Take these steps one at a time to handle the fear. You may go back and forth with any one or all of the steps. You can still handle the fear and get through it.
Copyright © by Yvonne Ortega April 25, 2020 Updated on May 20, 2021.
Yes, to handle fear, go to God. He is waiting with open arms and He will provide comfort.
With open arms for sure, Melissa Henderson. Have a great rest of the week.